How My 2017 Takeaways Framed My 2018 Goals
Happy Happy New Year!
I love the end of the year. I love to reflect and think about the highs and lows of my year. I spent my New Year at a local Brazillian Steakhouse in Milwaukee then returned home to watch the ball drop. In an earlier blog post entitled, 40 Questions to Ask Yourself Before the End of the Year, I explained my love for an end of year reflection. Well, I did them too. After doing these questions, I walked away with three major takeaways from 2017 and set my 2018 goals.
Do you, boo!
I spent the better part of the year not really “doing me.” I stayed in a job I didn’t want to be in because of promises I made to people who didn’t really need me after a certain amount of time. I didn’t start my blog when I wanted to because of the fear of what people might say or think. I was always doing things for other people, trying to keep other people happy and stretching myself thin trying to keep hold of things that may have fallen by the wayside without my effort.
I’ve learned that it’s okay to take time away from friends and family if that’s something you need to do but don’t stay gone too long. Unless of course, these relationships are harmful physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. I’ve learned that doing what I want to do, as long as I’m not hurting anyone, is okay and very necessary for my sanity. So I made a promise to myself; that everything that I need to do for me, I’m going to do it. No questions asked. As a 28-year-old woman who does not have children, I feel I have the right to be selfish.
This takeaway framed my goal for growing my blog and business. I am no longer afraid to promote myself. I am no longer afraid to talk about my blog. I am no longer ashamed of this dream of having this blog or a business. It's mine. It belongs to me and I'm going to own it.
Self-love is not an option
In 2017, I realized I lacked self-love tremendously. I spent a lot of time picking apart my face and my body. At some point in the year, I had to get real with myself. I reflected on where I thought this lack of self-love was coming from. Once I was honest with myself, I was able to fight the voices in my head. The reason self-love is not an option is that if you don't love yourself, other people won't know how to love you either. Cultivating self-love is the most important and best thing you can do for yourself.
This takeaway has helped me frame the goal practicing self-compassion at all times. Ensuring that I'm nice to myself and living by the rule of, "If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say it to yourself."
You can't force someone to see your awesomeness
HEAR THIS! It is not your job to make anyone see the magic in you. Imagine how terribly exhausting it is to try to make someone see that you’re magic.
You lose your magic by trying to shine to someone who should notice it anyway. You start focusing so hard on why they don’t see you, you stop seeing yourself. This goes for a parent whom you can never do anything right for, a sibling, a spouse, a friend, or a boss.
I know that I cultivate a certain skill set. I know I am passionate, compassionate, thoughtful, the list goes on. I know that I can literally do anything if I try hard enough. I know that I am intelligent and I have so much to offer the world. This goes hand in hand with the lack of self-care. Trying to compare and focusing on all the things I was not, instead of all the wonderful things I was.
"Continue to light up your world and let the blind man be."
This takeaway has helped me to shape the goal of surrounding myself with supportive and loving individuals. I will no longer be around anything that makes me feel depleted. I am committed to creating a circle that is uplifting.
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